Will I Be With Family In Hell?

There are people who think they will be with family and friends in hell. They truly believe they will be together in the afterlife to enjoy whatever lies ahead. Let’s be clear. There are no family reunions in hell. Those who reject Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior will be alone and tormented for all eternity.

This false belief may be rooted in a religion the person was raised with. The follower’s of these religions base their belief on one person’s vision, with no proof of the claims of the founder, and no investigation. At the same time, they ignore the Bible, filled with historical, archeological, scientific and geographical proof.

The Bible clearly states that the person who rejects Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior will end up in hell, alone and in torment forever. The following verses lead us to conclude that a person will not have any conversation in hell:

  • Psalm 28:1-2, “Do not be silent to me, Lest, if you are silent to me, I become like those who go down to the pit.”   
  • 1 Samuel 2:9, “And the wicked shall be silent in darkness.”

In Luke 16:23, the rich man wanted Lazarus to leave the Paradise side of hades in order to warn his five brothers so they wouldn’t come there. He was in torment in the flame begging for one drop of water. There is no mention of anyone with him.

  • Jonah 2:2, 6, “I cried by reason of mine affliction unto the Lord, and he heard me; out of the belly of hell cried I. I went down to the bottoms of the mountains; the earth with her bars was about me for ever: yet hast thou brought up my life from corruption, O Lord my God.”

He was alone, in affliction, and behind bars forever, or so he thought. God had rescued him but he certainly was not with anyone. 

In addition, there are many verses that describe the prison cells, the burning, being torn in pieces, being beaten with many stripes or few, being delivered to the tormentors, the burning lake of fire, and existing in utter darkness forever. Since a person is experiencing all this suffering, it is not conducive to having company and conversation. A person who goes to hell will never even see another person, since they are in darkness.

  • Psalm 88:6, “You have laid me in the lowest pit, In darkness, in the depths.”
  • Psalm 143:3, “He has made me dwell in darkness, Like those who have long been dead.”
  • Job 15:30, “He shall not depart out of darkness.”
  • 2 Peter 2:17, “for whom is reserved the blackness of darkness forever.”
  • Lamentations 6, “He has set me in dark places like the dead of long ago.”
  • Psalm 49:19, “They shall never see light.”

Here are just a few verses that describe torment in hell:

  • Luke 12:47, “he shall be beaten with many stripes or beaten with few”.
  • Matthew 24:51, “and will cut him in pieces and appoint him his portion with the hypocrites. There shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”
  • Matthew 22:13, “Bind him hand and foot and take him away, and cast him into outer darkness; there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”
  • Matthew13:49-50, “The angels will come forth,  separate the wicked from among the just, and cast them into the furnace of fire. There will be wailing and gnashing of teeth.”

These verses do not describe time spent enjoying the company of family and loved ones.

In my experience from my book, 23 Minutes in Hell, I shared about the desperate feeling of wanting to talk or be with someone. The fear of being alone forever with no interaction with people was alone terrifying.

From The Essential Works of John Wesley, page 759;

“In the dreary regions of the dead all these things (the good things in life) are forgotten. The dark abodes, no light except that of vivid flames…groans and shrieks…the heirs of shame and everlasting contempt. They are torn away from their nearest and dearest relations, the friend. All the pleasures they ever enjoyed in these persons is lost, gone, vanished, for there is no friendship in hell. Thus they are totally separated from all the things they were fond of in the present world.”

There is a verse in Isaiah 14:9-10 that seems to conflict with the idea of being alone in hell.

Isaiah 14:9-12 reads, “Hell from beneath is moved for thee to meet thee at thy coming: it stirreth up the dead for thee, even all the chief ones of the earth; it hath raised up from their thrones all the kings of the nations. All they shall speak and say unto thee, Art thou also become weak as we? Art thou become like unto us? Thy pomp is brought down to the Sheol, the worm is spread under thee, and the worms cover thee. How art thou fallen from heaven, O Lucifer.” 

This is in reference to the King of Babylon, and also to the one behind him, Satan himself. Some use these verses to point out that is says those in hell will talk to this person, so there is conversation and your not alone in hell. However, this is an isolated case, addressing this particular wicked king, and also Satan himself; a very unique situation. Also, it is only at his entering hell and his passing by the people of hell that they comment on his now weak position. He flaunted his power, just as the devil, and now he is in shame. His pomp, (pride, swelling arrogance), is now deflated and he is humiliated. This is showing the final outcome of the king of Babylon and Satan himself, who smote the people on the earth in wrath continually, and ruled the nations in anger. This is the king and Satan’s end, not as powerful, but as weak, defeated, and in shame. Most commentaries state that this is a reference to the very wicked king of Babylon, and Satan himself. This one unique situation should not be taken to infer conversation or fellowship in hell.

Jesus said several times that those who reject Him will be cast into outer darkness, where there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth. He mentioned everlasting fire, everlasting destruction, everlasting damnation, and everlasting punishment. These terms are all inconsistent with having company and conversation.

We all have the opportunity to enjoy life and the people we love while alive here on the earth. Psalm 33:5 says, “The earth is full of the goodness of the Lord.”

If we deny Jesus, we won’t get to enjoy life and people after we die. We will be separated from all good, tormented in hell forever. 

Christians have the opportunity to share the way of salvation with people so they don’t have to go to this horrid place. God has entrusted us with His precious Word, which if people will receive, promises them eternal life. In heaven we will be with our loved ones who knew Jesus. We will never experience loneliness, or pain, or loss, or suffering. We will never be separated from those we love.

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By Bill Wiese, author of 23 Minutes in Hell